How to Be Interesting – Jessica Hagy [Book Summary]

by Nick

“How to Be Interesting” covers the following steps:

Step 1: Explore

Jessica advises exploring new ideas, places, and opinions. Listening only to yourself is the destiny of unbearably boring people.

No one saw everything that you saw. No one was in all those places where you were. No one experiences exactly the same feelings as you. Find out why.

Disconnect from gadgets. Without a map, you can discover new places that are not indicated there. By turning off the phone, you can talk with someone who will meet on the way.

Do not be afraid of difficulties, oddities, risk, unusual events and situations, crazy ideas, frightening things, unusual points of view and new sounds. Take a vacation every day.

Turn into a spy. Watch people, sneak up, peep, eavesdrop.

Give it a try. Break the schedule. There is always time for discoveries. Cut an hour or two to realize dreams that have always been put off “for later”.

Be like children. Notice beautiful things. And ugly things. And the fun stuff. Taunt less. Admire more. Keep asking “Why?”

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Step 2: Share Your Findings

Use cross-pollination. Look for people with hobbies other than yours. Take the initiative. Do not put off until tomorrow.

Offer help. Talk about the obvious (for you). What you know is often a secret to others for seven seals.

Do not be shy. Invite more often than they invite you. Help strangers. Share what you know. Do not skimp on compliments.

Never lock the door. Leave a place for uninvited guests – you never know who will come to the light. It can be amazing people. You are in one phone call, one letter, one SMS, in one exclamation “hello!” From any person.

Step 3: Do many things

Go outside.

Real-life always goes in 3D and in high resolution.

It is outside home walls that amazing people meet and amazing things happen.

Do what you want. Connect with others. Connect yourself. Sincerely rejoice at yourself. Trust yourself.

Throw away the trash. Not every business is worth doing. Not every unpleasant job must be done.

Get to the truth. Disassemble something into parts and assemble it back. Press the buttons. Change the settings. Realize how interesting all this is.

Find a hero for yourself. Protect what you love. Whatever you do, love your job. Take it. Improve it. Own it.

Step 4: Accept Your Oddities

There are no “normal” people in the world. Each has its own characteristics and views unique to it. Do not hide them from others – this is what makes you an interesting person.

Get rid of the uniform. Leaving home, stay yourself. Be yourself at work. Wear your personality proudly.

Do not pretend. Not everyone will understand, appreciate and accept you, but you do not need to adapt to others. Your unusualness is a valuable thing. Mark of distinction. A reason for pride.

Be multifaceted.

Capitalize on your features.

Step 5: Live Meaningfully

Remember what hurts you for the living. Spend money on the right things. Vote with your wallet.

Do not be afraid of dirty work.

Take care of your business seriously. Immerse yourself in it with your head.

Do not be silent. Praise the beautiful and condemn the vile. Strive to the maximum. Feel free to abandon the ordinary in favor of the great. There is little more surprising in life because very few aspire to it.

Even discreet actions matter. Put your order in order. Assign the highest priority to the most important.

Step 6: Keep It Simple

If your arrogance is more noticeable than experience, people will shun you. All that you will ever know will be just a microscopic grain of sand compared to the vast, vast universe of information. May this sobering fact soothe you.

Forget about titles. What matters is not the title, but the person who wears it. Do not take yourself too seriously.

Ask more. Interesting people are not interested in themselves, but in a variety of things. Stay a student.

Develop pride in others. Admit mistakes. Help everyone you meet.

Impress yourself before impressing. The more often something surprises you, the greater your chances of surprising someone. How do you know how to evaluate yourself highly if you have never looked up?

Step 7: Try

Try new ideas. Do something unusual. Don’t let the bother stop you. Recognize your desires. To deny a dream is to kill it in the bud.

Surprise yourself. Read it all. Eavesdrop intentionally. Watch movies, watch people and clouds.

Cross your borders. If you have not been somewhere, this does not mean that you will not like it. If something is not your responsibility, this does not mean that you cannot do it. Sign up for volunteers. Take on difficult things.

Stop being shy. Sing out loud and out of tune. Jump on the street. Take part in the amateur dancers competition.

Step 8: Get Off Track

Do not do what everyone is already doing – this train left without you. Do something strange.

Do not confuse tradition with law. If something is ubiquitous, it is not necessarily worthy of praise or participation.

Follow your curiosity. Do something special, not ordinary. Become noticeable. Break the link between stress and success. Create your own fashion.

Take unoccupied space. Learn little-known. Relive forgotten stories. Read old books. Shake off the dust from the old fashion. Listen to rare music. Fascinating things can be found everywhere.

Step 9: Get Courageous

If you have a dream, know that you are the only person who can realize it. Raise a riot. If you suddenly realize that you are working on something meaningless or fruitless, immediately become.

Do not be afraid of friction. Security is often dangerous. Be stubborn. Surrender is boring. Fight absurd customs. It was once customary to burn witches. Slavery was also legalized.

What can be fixed in today’s realities?

Set your own boundaries of time, attention, money, love. Get ready to receive failures.

If whining, then constructively. Arm yourself with wit.

Step 10: Ignore the Swearing

If you have unpleasant memories associated with certain places, things, and even people, let them go. Avoid people who make you feel lousy. Do not belittle yourself. Do not follow the advice of people you do not respect.

Learn from everyone. You can learn how not to live, from the scum you come across. You can learn how to live, from people you respect and love.

Farewell. Most people, even the most unpleasant ones, do the best they can do. They may not deserve love and admiration, but, despising them, you harm yourself too.

Do not confuse ridicule and criticism. Trust your talents. Always give one more chance, especially to yourself. While you are alive – you can change something.

Be interesting to leave your mark, and not to flash unnoticed.

Why You Should Read “How to Be Interesting”

  • To live a meaningful life
  • To be really unique and special
  • To follow your path and dreams

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